Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The Forebearing

The Forebearing الحليم

1. The first compensation for the forbearing person from his forbearance is that all the people are [ready to be] his helpers against his enemy.

1ـ أوَّلُ عِوَضِ الحَلِيمِ عَنْ حِلْمِهِ أنَّ النّاسَ كُلَّهُمْ

2. The forbearing person raises his determination, in that which he has been oppressed, above seeking an evil retribution.

2ـ اَلحَليْمُ يُعْلِي هِمَّتَهُ فيما جُنِيَ عَلَيْهِ مِنْ طَلَبِ سُوءِ

3. Indeed the best of people is one who is forbearing even when he is strong [enough to exact revenge], is not attached to the pleasures of this world even though he is well-off and is just even though he has power.

3ـ إنَّ أفْضَلَ النّاسِ مَنْ حَلُمَ عَنْ قُدْرَة، وزَهَدَ عَنْ

4. The forbearing is one who tolerates [the flaws of] his brothers.

4ـ اَلحَلِيمُ مَنِ احْتَمَلَ إخْوانَهُ.

5. The forbearing is one for whom it is not difficult to act with tolerance.

5ـ الحَليمُ الَّذي لا يَشُقُّ عَلَيْهِ مَؤُنَةُ الحِلْمِ.

6. If you are not forbearing then act forbearing, for verily it is rare for a person who imitates a group not to soon become one among them.

6ـ إنْ لَمْ تَـكُنْ حَلِيماً فَتَحَلَّمْ، فَإنَّهُ قَلَّ مَنْ

7. Indeed only he is forbearing who is patient when he is offended and forgives when he is wronged.

7ـ إنَّما الحَلِيمُ مَنْ إذا أُوذِيَ صَبَرَ، وإذا ظُلِمَ غَفَرَ.

8. Sit in the company of the forbearing and you will increase your forbearance.

8 ـ جالِسِ الحُلَماءَ تَزْدَدْ حِلْماً.

9. Sometimes the forbearing person may get fed up.

9ـ قَدْ يَزْهَقُ الحَلِيمُ.

10. A person who is not forbearing may at times dress in the garb of forbearance.

10ـ قَدْ يَتَزَيّي بِالحِلْمِ غَيْرُ الحَلِيمِ.

11. Be forbearing in [times of] anger, very patient [and courageous] in fear, [and] moderate in your request.

11ـ كُنْ حَلِيماً فِي الغَضَبِ،صَبُوراً فِي الرَّهَبِ، مُجْمِلاً فِي

12. He who lacks strength and thus remains quiet, only to take revenge when he gets power, is not forbearing; rather only he is forbearing who forgives when he has power and over all of whose affairs forbearance prevails.

12ـ لَيْسَ الحَلِيمُ مَنْ عَجَزَ فَهَجَمَ، وإذا قَدَرَ انْتَقَمَ

13. One who endeavours to act with forbearance becomes forbearing.

13ـ مَنْ تَحَلَّمَ حَلُمَ.

14. One who shows forbearance is honoured.

14ـ مَنْ حَلُمَ أُكْرِمَ.

15. One who adorns himself with forbearance, his recklessness subsides.

15ـ مَنْ تَحَلّى بِالْحِلْمِ سَكَنَ طَيْشُهُ.

16. One who does not endeavour to act with forbearance does not become forbearing.

16ـ مَنْ لَمْ يَتَحَلَّمْ لَمْ يَحْلُمْ.

17. Whoever infuriates you by the ugliness of his foolish behaviour towards you, then infuriate him by the beauty of your forbearance towards him.

17ـ مَنْ غاظَكَ بِقُبْحِ السَّفَهِ عَلَيْكَ، فَغِظْهُ بِحُسْنِ

18. One who seeks the support of forbearance against you defeats you and acts graciously towards you.

18ـ مَنِ اسْتَعانَ بِالْحِلْمِ عَلَيْكَ غَلَبَكَ وتَفَضَّلَ عَلَيْكَ.