The Child's Education in Islam

Selecting a Spacious House

Imam Assadiq (peace be upon him) said: "Having spacious house is part of happiness"[^35].

He (peace be upon him) said: "A believer has convenience in a spacious house"[^36].

Possessing a spacious house is among the established fact that contributes to human being's happiness and Islam has duly encourage that. If one is in the midst of Islamic community that adopted Islamic system of life, the societal guarantee will satisfy this need and other ones.

In a situation where one can not afford to buy or rent a spacious house, he is to plead the wife to work hard and struggle in order to achieve that and give her hope on that or encourage her to be patient for what Allah has provided for their poverty in terms of goods and rewards.

Verily this will give her tranquility and rest of mind even if the house is tight.

PROVIDING ALL THE WOMAN'S NECESSITIES

On the authority of Abdullah bn Ata, he said: I entered to Abu Jaafar (peace be upon him) and I saw bed stead, pillows, fashions and other things that accompanied it in his house, I said to him, what are all this? He (peace be upon him) said: "It is women properties"[^37].

It is incumbent to provide all the necessities of the women in the house like pillows, cushions and colored wool furnishing. This is in addition to beautiful dresses and some other house equipments to give her rest of mind and happiness. It is incumbent to provides all these, base on the husband's ability but in a situation where he was not able to provide all these or some of it, he should satisfy her with what Allah the Most High has provided for her in the Paradise, this is in addition to creation of hope in her mind for better condition for the satisfaction of her needs.

GOOD DEALINGS WITH THE WOMEN.

Good dealing with the women especially the pregnant ones will made her leave a happy life, full of relief, tranquility, spiritual and psychological constancy of which there is no chance for anxiety and psychological unrest to penetrate in her spirit and mind.

Imam Zainul Aabideen (peace be upon him) said: "Your right of guardianship from what you have possessed through marriage is to know that Allah has made her your residence, place of rest, intimacy and defendant. Also it is for every one of the two spouses to thank Allah for his companionship and to know that it is a blessing from Allah and to make good friendship, respect and leniency with this blessing of Allah because she possesses the Right of intimacy and place of rest, in her your delectation"[^38].

Good dealings are to have good conduct, leniency and let her hear good words from you. Honor her and kept her in a suitable place, considered her a partnership in life and satisfies all her spiritual and material needs. Treat her like human beings as honored by Islam and allow happiness, smiling, cordiality and blessing to prevail in the house. Try to create happiness in her mind and safe guide her secrecy and others that Islamic teaching which it has laid emphasis on.

Among it is to assist her in some difficult domestic duties, be patient of her mistakes and short-comings which did not affect her Islamic ways of life. Make reconciliation in solving the daily problems in such a way that it will not annoyed her and distance from any thing that will psychologically affect her like unnecessary jealousy, frown of face before her, beating her or abandoning her or reducing some of her Rights[^39].

If you treat her very well, her spiritual and psychological condition will be good and it will reflect on the embryo.

[^1] - Ilmi Nnafs Attarbawi: 45 - 57 -by DR. Fakhir Aqil (11th edition printed by Darul Ilmi lil malaayeen 1985 A.D.)

[^2] - Ilmi Nnafsil Aam vol- 1: 94 - by Dr. Anthon Hamsi - printed by Mat'ba'ah Demeshq 1407 A.H.

[^3] - Al-kafi by Kulaini vol-5:332/ 2nd ch- selecting spouse, Printed by Daru Atta'aruf 3rd edition, 1401 A.H.

[^4] - Al-mahabba Al-baida'i vol- 3: 93 by Faidhi Kashaani, 3rd edition Jaamiyatil mudariseen Qom.

[^5] - Makaarimul Akh'laq: 304 -by Tabrasi - printed by Manshuraati sh-sherifa Rridah 2nd edition 1410 A.H.

[^6] - Makaarimul Akh'laq: 305 -by Tabrasi - printed by Manshuraati sh-sherifa Rridah 2nd edition 1410 A.H.

[^7] - Wasaa'ili sh-shiyyah vol- 20: 85 /1st ch-34 - by Huril Aamuli - printed by Muasasah Aali bait Qom 1st edition 1412 A.H.

[^8] - Al-kafi vol-5:354/ 1st ch prohibition from marrying foolish woman.

[^9] - Al-kafi vol-5:352/ ch - Virtues of marrying religious woman

[^10] - Al-kafi vol-5:333/ 3rd ch- Virtues of marrying a religious person

[^11] - Al-kafi vol-5:347/ 1st ch- The competency.

[^12] - Al-kafi vol-5: 348.

[^13] - Al-kafi vol-5: 348/ 2nd &3rd ch- last part.

[^14] - Makarimul Akh'laq: 305.

[^15] - Wasaa'il sh-shiyyah vol-20:79, Al-kafi vol-5: 347/ 1st ch- 29.

[^16] - Qur'an 30:21.

[^17] - Makarimul Akh'laq:208.

[^18] - Makarimul Akh'laq:209.

[^19] - Makaarimul Akhlaq: 209.

[^20] - Al-kafi vol-5:498/ 1st ch- The offensive time; Makarimul Akh'laq: 208- 209.

[^21] - Makarimul Akh'laq:209.

[^22] - Makarimul Akh'laq:209.

[^23] - Makarimul Akh'laq:210.

[^24] - Makarimul Akh'laq:211.

[^25] - Makarimul Akh'laq: 211.

[^26] - Makaarimul Akh'laq: 212.

[^27] - Ilmi Nnafs Attarbawi: 46-47 - by DR. Fakhil Aaqil.

[^28] - Al-tifl bainal wiratha WA ttarbawi vol-1:106 -by Mohammad Taqqi Falsafi - printed by Daru Atta'aruf 1381 A.H. from the book "We and the children: 27".

[^29] - Mashaakilil Aaba'a fi tarbiyatil Abna'i:263 - by DR. Sapok - 3rd edition 1980 A.D.

[^30] - Bihaaril Anwaar: vol-3:44by Majlisi - printed by Muassasatul wafa'i 2nd edition 1403 A.H.

[^31] - Makarimul Akh'laq: 172.

[^32] - Makarimul Akh'laq : 194.

[^33] - Makarimul Akh'laq: 194.

[^34] - Makarimul Akh'laq: 196.

[^35] - Makaarimul Akh'laq: 125.

[^36] - Makaarimul Akh'laq : 131.

[^37] - Makaarimul Akh'laq: 131.

[^38] - Tuhfal uquul: 188, by Haraani printed by Mat'ba'a Al-Haidariyya Nnajaf 5th edition 1380 A.H.

[^39] - Irshaadil Quluub: 175; Makarimul Akh'laq: 245; Al-kafi vol-5:511; Almahajjatul Baida'i vol-3:19.